It's 2 A.M., and I'm not sure where I'm going with this...just random thoughts and feelings as I sit in our comfortable family room on a peaceful February morning watching Anderson Cooper and other journalists "reporting from an undisclosed location" in Egypt.
One Egyptian commentator (Mr. Ajami) said yesterday that the people didn't think they had enough room in their hearts for more heartbreak. Yet their peaceful demonstrations beginning 10 days ago have now taken a nasty turn as of yesterday. It's hard for me to wrap my arms around the violent images shown on CNN and elsewhere. How is it I am so blessed to be this safe, this protected, this peaceful while a world away others fight for democracy by civil disobedience and in some cases fight for their lives?
As a mediator, I'm trained to look for the win-win in conflict without going to war with each other. This seems so remote at the moment for the 80 million people of Egypt. While I go to bed soon and absorb the lovely silence of the night, I am struck by images of protesters in Cairo breaking up concrete streets into chunks to use as weapons and of a van blatantly mowing down pedestrians.
This crisis is hardly something to sleep on. I still pray for peace this day.
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Friday, February 4, 2011
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Fairly Legal Review
Following is a review written by Dr. John Bertschler (my hubby):
Mediation finally reached the small screen in the form of “Fairly Legal,” which premiered January 20 (10:00 PM, USA). In case you haven’t seen it, permit me to offer one mediator’s observations and comments. In no particular order, here are some of the things Hollywood wants us to know about the practice of mediation.
1. Mediators, their associates and clients are all smokin’ hot (OK, time to find another career already).
2. We believe that truth and justice are more important than the law (this is a subversive idea that I endorse, with reservations).
3. We can be imaginative and creative in getting disputants to see things in a different light (hey, I like that one).
4. We should break the law, if need be, to see that justice is served (uh, no).
5. Being peacemakers, we are sure to drop whatever we’re doing to barge into the middle of other people’s conflicts, even if that means violent street crime (again, I don’t think so).
6. We philosophically disagree with win-lose “solutions” and encourage people to work toward win-win agreements (this one is true).
7. We’re happy to tell disputants what a fair solution would be. In fact, we’re so sure of it, we can write up the Memorandum of Understanding in advance, then manipulate the disputants to endorse what we’ve already written up, and have them sign it without reading it (let me get back to you on this one).
8. If we fail to get disputants to a full agreement, we can be cited for contempt of court (I’m pretty sure that’s not quite right).
Of course Hollywood’s version is not completely realistic and in some cases is just wrong. Nonetheless the show is entertaining and watchable, and we can be grateful that the profession is getting some notoriety and some time in the public eye.
We can only hope that when a potential client calls a mediator, he/she will get the straight goods about how mediation works in real life.
Mediation finally reached the small screen in the form of “Fairly Legal,” which premiered January 20 (10:00 PM, USA). In case you haven’t seen it, permit me to offer one mediator’s observations and comments. In no particular order, here are some of the things Hollywood wants us to know about the practice of mediation.
1. Mediators, their associates and clients are all smokin’ hot (OK, time to find another career already).
2. We believe that truth and justice are more important than the law (this is a subversive idea that I endorse, with reservations).
3. We can be imaginative and creative in getting disputants to see things in a different light (hey, I like that one).
4. We should break the law, if need be, to see that justice is served (uh, no).
5. Being peacemakers, we are sure to drop whatever we’re doing to barge into the middle of other people’s conflicts, even if that means violent street crime (again, I don’t think so).
6. We philosophically disagree with win-lose “solutions” and encourage people to work toward win-win agreements (this one is true).
7. We’re happy to tell disputants what a fair solution would be. In fact, we’re so sure of it, we can write up the Memorandum of Understanding in advance, then manipulate the disputants to endorse what we’ve already written up, and have them sign it without reading it (let me get back to you on this one).
8. If we fail to get disputants to a full agreement, we can be cited for contempt of court (I’m pretty sure that’s not quite right).
Of course Hollywood’s version is not completely realistic and in some cases is just wrong. Nonetheless the show is entertaining and watchable, and we can be grateful that the profession is getting some notoriety and some time in the public eye.
We can only hope that when a potential client calls a mediator, he/she will get the straight goods about how mediation works in real life.
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